Shaping Your Destiny: How to Make the Best Life Choices (According to Your Soul)

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I remember years ago walking across Central Park on my way to a crappy bar job, feeling very tired and unhappy, and it suddenly hit me that I was in a toxic relationship and also working in a toxic environment. I had this overwhelming urge to run away from it all.

I was confused, unhappy, but also desperately afraid of being broke or alone. My sense of self-worth and self-esteem was at an all-time low, and I knew in that moment that all of this wasn’t healthy for me.

There was a part of me that wanted to turn around right there, walk back to my apartment and quit that job, extract myself from the relationship, and start fresh. And if I could go back in time, that’s exactly what I would have done, because that was the yearning of my heart and the wisdom of my soul.

Unfortunately, as it often happens, I chose based on my fear.

I chose to keep the job and stay in the relationship, and continued to suffer until my life fell apart.

I ended up broke and alone, anyway. I continued to attract circumstances and relationships that were a reflection of my fear and low self-esteem, until such time as I finally recognized what was going on and made a decision to heal.

Now looking back, I can see that moment in Central Park as a point in my life where the decision I made had a massive impact on my story. If I had followed my soul's guidance and made the loving choice, it would have been a game-changer, but I'll never know what might have happened. I can only learn from the choice I made, and apply that wisdom to make better choices for myself going forward.

And forgive myself.

This is how the process of life goes, after all. Making mistakes is a big part of how we learn, heal and grow. But so is making a good call, and that's ultimately what we're always being guided to do, anyway, at least if we are listening.

While our lives are shaped by the choices we make every day, the more we are able to live in alignment with our souls, the more we can trust and follow our intuition (our soul’s voice), and the more likely we are to make the best, loving choices for ourselves.

This is one of the key principles in living a great big happy life! It takes practice, but if you are willing to commit to making loving, soul-aligned choices in your daily life, when it comes to the big life changing moments, you'll be ready.

Here's how to practice making loving, soul-aligned choices in your daily life:

Work with crystals to develop your intuition. Wear a piece of amethyst, shiva lingam, ajoite, or moonstone on a daily basis, and keep a note of what you feel is coming from your intuition.

Stop and focus on your breathing to clear your mind. Distractions, thoughts, worries, moving images, other people, can all pull you away from your center where your core of truth (your soul) resides. Take a moment to unhook from everything and just focus on your breathing, guiding it down more deeply into where you feel centered.

Tune In. Once you feel centered, check in with how you’re feeling: think about the different possible choices you could make (it could be something as little as your lunch menu), and see how you feel about each one. Choices that are in alignment with your soul will always feel positive, empowering, and often times exciting. Choices that are taking you out of alignment will always feel like a letdown, negative, or a sinking of your spirit. Make the choice that has the best or "yes!" feeling.

If you find that in going through this process you start to feel confused or unclear, it's a sign that you're starting to think it instead of feel it. Stop and breathe to clear your head, and then tune in again. Keep it simple and curious, no pressure. The more you put this into practice, the easier and stronger this skill will become for you.

Honor your gut feelings, and live a great big happy life! You deserve it, and your soul's there to guide you all the way. In my experience, even outcomes that seem negative that are based on this process usually turn out to be for the best in the end. Trust.